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Dear Prudence,

I’m a 50-year-old able man. I affiliated my academy sweetheart and we’ve been appropriately affiliated for about 30 years. We acquire two developed accouchement who are accomplishing well. About four years ago, my wife had breast cancer, a mastectomy, and chemotherapy. It was alarming and afterwards her analysis she told me that she was no best absorbed in sex. I ample the experience, understandably, ability accomplish her shy abroad from acquaintance for a while. I’ve said that I still adulation her added than anyone in the world, and that she’s admirable to me, which is true. From time to time, I’ve told her that I absence acquaintance with her. She’s thanked me for the compliment, but it hasn’t gone any added than that. One of my hobbies is photography, and sometimes I’ve been asked to booty pictures of bedrock bands. Three weeks ago I was at a club and a twentysomething man absolved up to me. He said, “This bandage has a ample gay following. Are you gay?” I said, “No. I’m married. I’m aloof actuality to booty photos.” He said, “Well, I anticipate you’re hot. If you’re bi-curious, my accommodation is nearby.” Annihilation like that had anytime happened to me before. He was young, and handsome. I thought, “Why the hell not?” We went to his abode and had (safe) sex. I’d never had sex with a man before. I begin it to be absorbing and enjoyable, but not article I’d been anxious for all of my life. What I did acquisition that I longed for was the passion. Three times that night, he said, “You are such a developed man.” No one had anytime said that to me afore and I accumulate audition those words in my head. Since then, I’ve had a agglomeration of conflicted feelings. I feel sad about betraying my wife. I additionally accumulate scanning crowds to see if I can acquisition that guy again. I don’t anticipate that it’s the sex that I want, so abundant as the affection and appreciation. I would like to acquisition some way to explain my animosity to my wife, but I can’t acquaint her about the one-night stand. She’s not homophobic, but the actuality that I’ve absent alfresco of alliance would be aching for her. Your thoughts?

I anticipate you charge to stop adorable for the adolescent stranger, and instead focus on your wife. No, I don’t anticipate you should acquaint her about your contempo encounter. But that exhilarant and ambagious adventure should actuate you to abode the bareness in your marriage. Your wife absolutely went through a aching and alarming acquaintance that seems to acquire larboard her with a faculty of breach from her body. Analysis additionally could acquire pushed her into an brusque and difficult menopause. All of this could beggarly she both feels airedale and aloof in sex. But that doesn’t beggarly it’s fair for her to unilaterally advertise (while both of you were abandoned in your 40s!) that your sex activity has concluded with no adventitious for altercation or reconsideration. Your wife charge acquire advised that her closing the aperture on acquaintance would acquire a abstruse aftereffect on you. Surely, you never anticipation the aftereffect would be that you go off to acquire bearding sex with a handsome adolescent man. It doesn’t complete as if this is a acclimation of your animal orientation—I’m activity you additionally would acquire gone off with an adorable woman—but instead about the atrocious anxious of a man who’s been in animal purgatory.

So allocution to your wife. You can acquaint her you acquire that sex afterwards blight analysis can be a complicated issue. But for both of your sakes you appetite to reconnect physically and emotionally. Say that you are blessed to go with her to a therapist if that would help. Advise that her gynecologist can abode some of her concrete issues, which are discussed here. Suggest she may account from talking about all of this with a support group of others who acquire been there. Let her apperceive you’re blessed to go slow, but that you appetite to bless anniversary other’s bodies and you anticipate there can be an alike added abstruse affiliation because of your joy at still accepting anniversary other. Afresh see how she responds and accord her some time. If she afresh says she appreciates that you still acquisition her attractive, but that the animal affiliate of your lives is consistently closed, afresh she has afflicted the agreement of your marriage. At that point you acquire to adjudge what your abutment agency to you. Maybe you acquaint your wife you’re activity to accede accepting alert affairs. Maybe you don’t say annihilation but aloof go advanced and do it. Or maybe you adjudge you can’t breach in a sexless marriage. Sex with strangers is abounding with peril, but you are advantaged to accede your needs and get them met. —Emily Yoffe

From: Help! My Wife No Best Brand Sex Afterwards Her Mastectomy. So I Cheated. With a Man. (Sept. 12, 2013)

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Dear Prudence,

I acquire admirable parents who generally watch my 5-year-old and 2-year-old daughters. My parents alive at the bank and acquire taken the kids for overnights, and alike for a week. They acquire become abutting accompany with a adjacent brace their age, who additionally acquire developed accouchement and a grandson. The botheration is that my bedmate and I are absolutely creeped out by the man. My oldest babe has appear home from trips to my parents’ abode with a “present” from this man: a seashell, a feather, a rock. Already back I was bottomward my girls off, I backward awhile and “Fred” and “Wilma” chock-full by and brought a present. It was a beach dollar in a box elaborately busy with adorned ribbon. I had a pit in my abdomen the accomplished way home and I accomplished what agitated me about Fred’s gestures. They assume banal but are too developed in their presentation; he abandoned brings ability back my bedmate and I aren’t appointed to be there; and he singles out my earlier babe and doesn’t accompany presents for my adolescent one. It feels like he is admonishment her to assurance him, and my mommy-warning sirens are screaming. I acquire no affidavit or alike a suspicion of barbarism on this man’s part, but the girls are set to breach with my parents for a continued weekend and we appetite to be assertive that my association won’t be adorning with Fred and Wilma. We don’t appetite to insult their friendship, but how do we explain that their accompany are awful and we don’t appetite them abreast our kids?

I would never say any ancestor should avoid a gut activity about her child’s safety. But from your description of this situation, my gut activity is that you acquire overactive mommy bowels. If you see every affable man as a abeyant predator, you’re activity to back accidental abhorrence and all-overs to your children. Let’s anatomize your indictment—which you accede lacks a scintilla of affirmation of wrongdoing. On its face, there’s annihilation awful about a retired brace who conceivably don’t get to see as abundant of their grandchild as they’d like demography a flash to a grandchild of friends. Conceivably you don’t run into Fred and Wilma back you’re visiting because they apperceive you’re advancing and don’t appetite to horn in on your time with your parents. Maybe Fred comes up with badge ability for your 5-year-old because she’s so captivated by them, and she’s verbally acknowledging in a way a 2-year-old can’t be. I’m academic that the alarming wrapping of the beach dollar (cue the soundtrack by Bernard Herrmann) was absolutely done by Wilma. Not because she’s craftily in alliance with her molester husband, but because she’s a grandmother who enjoys crafts and blessed looks on children’s faces.

Fred reminds me of my own grandfather, who admired baby children. Annihilation fabricated him happier than to acquire one of his abounding grandchildren beddy-bye over, and I acquire admirable memories of him bluffing with me back I was little. Once, on a breach from college, I was visiting my grandparents’ accommodation and there was a beating at the door. The abashed woman from beyond the anteroom said she didn’t appetite to intrude, but her daughter, about 4 years old, insisted on seeing if her admired acquaintance was home. She ran to my grandfather, jumped into his arms, and he swung her about the way he had already swung me. I’m acquainted of this description of my grandfathering demography on a adverse air in ablaze of your letter—and I was one of the accouchement he adored and who adored him! If your centralized organs will be in a aberration unless you say article to your parents, afresh you acquire to speak. Banning Fred and Wilma from your children’s attendance could potentially ruin your parents’ friendship, and I don’t anticipate you’ve fabricated a case it’s necessary. But go advanced and acquaint your parents that you apperceive you complete paranoid, but Fred’s absorption in your adolescent makes you uneasy. Insist that your parents accede your accouchement will never be abandoned with anyone abroad or out of their sight. —EY

From: Help! A Man Keeps Giving Presents to My 5-Year-Old Daughter. (June 7, 2012)

Dear Prudence,

Two months ago, afterwards announcement a account to my Facebook in which I said I “felt beautiful,” I started accepting email letters from addition I didn’t apperceive that were abandoned and cruel. I am chubby, and my harasser capital to acquaint me, as nastily as possible, that I was ambiguous myself for cerebration I could be beautiful. Not alive who was autograph to me, I fabricated my Facebook contour added private. But afresh a acquaintance adapted that I analyze the IP addresses of my harasser to the IP addresses of emails from bodies I know. To my shock, I apparent my harasser has the aforementioned IP abode as my best friend’s boyfriend, Adam. Adam lives alone, and based on the times the letters were beatific I do not acquire addition being beatific those letters from his computer. Adam has consistently been affectionate to me, and until my analysis I anticipation he was my friend. His behavior makes no sense, and I don’t apperceive what to say to him or to my best friend. What should I do?

I acquisition myself acquisitive that Adam has a addiction to lose calculation of his drinks. It’s no excuse, but if backward at night the Mr. Hyde side of Adam seeks to accurate itself, afresh at atomic there’s a almost account for his venom. But if Adam aloof brand to aperture his free-floating abhorrence beneath the guise of a apocryphal identity, he is a above creep. Aloof to accomplish abiding you weren’t activity off on a agenda tangent, I batten to some bodies on Slate’s technology aggregation and they said that anecdotic an IP abode can admonition point you against a suspect, but accumulate in apperception your affirmation is not conclusive. They additionally adapted that you do as ample a chase as accessible of the IP addresses of your correspondents to accomplish abiding you’ve angry up a atypical bout amid your annoyer and your friend’s boyfriend. If you abide convinced, I anticipate you should aboriginal allocution to Adam, afresh acquaint your friend. Don’t alarm a abandoned affair with him—you appetite an accessible way out if things get alike weirder—but abutting time you’re at a amusing accident together, cull him abreast and say you’d like a word. Explain that afresh you were accepting a alternation of calumniating email messages. So you did some investigating and were abashed to acquisition that the IP abode of your new contributor was the aforementioned as his email. Afresh abatement bashful and let him respond. If he absolutely is the culprit, let’s achievement that he owns up, abjectly apologizes, and says it will never appear again. If so, acquaint him that acutely you acquire some cerebration to do about your accord with him, and this additionally complicates your accord with your best friend. Say you are activity to acquaint her, but you will let her apprehend it aboriginal anon from him. If he denies alive annihilation about it, afresh say while you anticipate the affirmation is strong, you acquire that it charcoal a mystery. Add that you’re activity to let your acquaintance apperceive about your conversation. Back you acquaint her, accede that this is putting her in a difficult bearings and that there is an aspect of doubt, but that you acquainted you bare to say something. Take abundance that Robert Louis Stevenson had some acid observations about the (possible) Adams of the world: “I abstruse to recognise the absolute and archaic duality of man; I saw that, of the two natures that arguable in the acreage of my consciousness, alike if I could accurately be said to be either, it was abandoned because I was radically both.” —EY

From: Help! An Bearding Emailer Is Trying to Shred My Self-Esteem—and I Anticipate I Apperceive Who It Is. (Aug. 14, 2014)

Dear Prudence,

My ancestor is 65 years old and in outstanding health. He has a baby absolute acreage authority of 30 or so multifamily residential homes. He congenital the business himself and runs it as a one-man band. Toilet clogged? My old man fixes it so as not to acquire to pay addition else. The acknowledged anatomy of my dad’s business is a jumble. Some homes are endemic by him and my stepmother, others are captivated by an LLC he formed. He additionally has accepted deals with bisected a dozen accompany and ancestors members. My mother lives in addition accompaniment in a abode endemic by my ancestor and possibly his wife. My ancestor is a acceptable and caring person, but is chaotic and his “office” is a agglomeration of bags of cardboard in his basement. Recently, my sister and brother-in-law abdicate their jobs and awash their abode to backpack with their two baby accouchement to assignment in and maybe booty over this business. My ancestor has no will or assumption plan and if he were to die or become bedridden he would leave abaft a complicated acknowledged mess. My sister and I would acquire to assignment with our stepmom, with whom neither of us are close. I acquisition it cruel, irresponsible, and egocentric for my dad not to actualize an acreage plan. I am affluent financially, acquire no absolute absorption in his estate, and alive far away, although I allege to my ancestor regularly. My dad keeps promising me that he will booty affliction of this but he never does. I’ve brought this up so abundant that he’s affability me out. What’s the best able way to actuate him to abode the issue?

Form a ancestors book club and accomplish the aperture alternative Charles Dickens’ Bleak House. There you could apprehend about the fabulous case of Jarndyce v. Jarndyce, the altercation over an bequest that goes on for so continued the absolute acreage is captivated in acknowledged fees. For admonition on your bearings I angry to an expert, attorney A. Stephen McDaniel, above admiral of the National Association of Acreage Planners and Councils. This gave McDaniel a adventitious to echo the mantra of acreage planners everywhere: Those who abort to plan, plan to fail. As you are aware, your father’s disability to abode the assured will leave his brood with an base mess. If he dies intestate, he will acquire appointed the accompaniment assembly to adjudge what happens to the “empire” he built. Though laws alter amid states, McDaniel said acceptable the business will be disconnected amid your father’s wife and children, and apparently your stepmother will be called executor. She has a congenital battle of absorption as commendations you and your sister—not to acknowledgment your mother, her husband’s antecedent wife, who ability acquisition her active bearings rather precarious. McDaniel said that addition out who inherits assorted accoutrements of acreage of altered amount is so complicated that the accomplished activity ability acquire to be sold. If that happens, let’s achievement it’s in a ascent market.

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McDaniel says that he believes accouchement are not advantaged to accede from their parents, but against they don’t deserve to be handed a following calamity that will accomplish acknowledged bills and affecting strife. Instead of continuing to nag your ancestor about this, I anticipate you should booty action. Acquaint him you’re activity to account some acreage planners in his breadth (you can alpha with the NAEPC referral list), and back you’ve articular one or two you like, acquaint your ancestor you’re advancing for a appointment and during it you appetite to go with him to the lawyers’ offices to get the action started. Breach continued abundant to see that he retains a close and either admonition your ancestor accumulate the adapted paperwork to accompany to the attorney, or see that he hires addition who can assist. Yes, this will booty some time out of your life. But you apperceive if you don’t do this now, back your ancestor is gone you will be captivated with allocation out the needs of ancestors associates who aren’t absolute like you and whose worlds acquire aloof collapsed.—EY

From: Help! My Ancestor Refuses to Accomplish a Will. (Sept. 5, 2013)

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